#rockingmotherhood challenge

rocking

I mom fail all of the time.  I know I do.  I think we all have things that we know we aren’t the best at when it comes to being a mom, maybe its parenting style, or discipline, or trying to hard to be friends with our kids, rather than making sure they are on the right track to adulthood.

I’m totally guilty of being a bad mom from time to time.  BUT…. this is not about that.

This is about what i’m doing that is right.

And so, I’m taking the #rockingmotherhood challenge.

10 Ways I am #RockingMotherhood:

  1. I don’t sweat the small stuff – Sometimes, I leave the laundry in the basket in the living room so we can go outside to enjoy the sunshine.  I leave dishes in the sink while we go get ice cream.  I don’t get mad when my two year old yells in the house.
  2. I drive around and turn up the music.  Sometimes this is more about me than it is about my kids… I can’t help how much I love the windows down and the music turned up.  I’m not sure I’ll ever grow out of this. And we aren’t talking “old people” music… which brings me to number 3…
  3. I can choose songs that are going to be hits before they are hits.  My daughter is always annoyed when I play a new song that she doesn’t know… and two weeks LATER, shes playing it in the car.  Its a great feeling because we actually have conversation about music and share that with each other!
  4.  I ask my kids how their day was, and I LISTEN to them.  Obviously, when you have a 15 year old and 2 1/2 year old, their days are COMPLETELY different.  Its fun to text my sitter at the end of an evening and ask her what they had for lunch, to see if Maddox is telling me the truth about having hot dogs…  I feel like this lets them know that I am really here for them, no matter what they feel like talking about, whether its high school drama or daycare lunchtime.
  5. I make sure we have family dinner.  Even though I’m a mediocre cook, I still make sure that whatever we are eating, we do it together.  Sometimes our schedule makes dinner time tough, so I try to accomadate. My son might have to have a snack to tide him over, if my daughter has a sports practice or rehearsal.  We don’t eat together every night, but we try to alot.
  6. I try to relate.  I know its tough to be a teenager…. I remember it, and some of the crap that went along with it. I know there are problems with friends and falling outs.  I also know that sometimes, this is going to be my daughter’s fault, because she like everyone else, is not perfect.  I’m not afraid to share with her some of the stories from my past, and to try to help her find a lesson in the situation she is dealing with.  I will admit though, sometimes I get accused of “lecturing”  and being slightly long winded.  I know if you asked Cameron, she would tell you that some of her funniest moments with me were during these times, so I guess that means I rock at making some amazing memories with her as well! 🙂
  7. I get on the floor and play.  I’m just as guilty as the next mom when it comes to phone usage.  I will admit though, when my son looks at me with his sweet face and asks me “will you pway with me, mommy,”  I will toss that phone on the couch and get down there to play, blocks, dinosaurs, and his favorite, Mr. Potato Head.  Besides, without me, I’m not sure he’d ever figure out how to fix Mr. Potato Head’s butt.
  8. I like to be a prankster.  There have been many times where my poor husband has been the focus of pranks.  We’ve tried to flour him… (throwing water on him and then flour, but we only caught his arm hair)  We have dumped buckets of cold water on each other in the shower, or heck, even while in the kitchen.  I’m not afraid to have a food fight, or to wipe peanut butter on one of the kids faces, or try to play any type of practical joke on them, within reason, I must state… nothing like those crazy Youtube parents…  If you ask my daughter what some of her best memories of growing up will be, I bet she tells you one or two about the prank wars held at our house.  Even her friends are willing to join in the fun, and I’m guessing some of their most memorable moments had to do with some sort of prank that was done at our house.
  9. I love them equally.  This one is kind of funny, but anyone who has a stepchild will understand.  When you marry the person you choose to marry, you marry every thing and every one that comes with that person.  I have been blessed to get to help raise this girl in my life, and I just can’t wait to be apart of her future!   That being said, she would probably tell everyone that I love Maddox more than I love her.  If he was old enough, he’d probably say the same about her.
  10. I know I fail sometimes.  I get that this seems funny, that I would pick this as a reason that I rock, but if you never recognize your mistakes, how can you teach your children to be humble?  How can you treat them that when you make a mistake, the best and most adult way to handle it is to own up to it, and try to make it better if you can and if you can’t, acknowledge what you did wrong and try to never do it again.  If you are able to use a fail in life as a moment to make yourself better, then I am a firm believer that you should.

Okay.  Ten reasons that I think I rock as a mom.   I really would love to hear from other moms on how you rock!   Too many people that judge other moms for the way they parent their kids, and I think we should work on changing that.  We should be working to help each other.

 

One home cooked meal and I’m an expert

This past weekend, I did something I honestly never thought I would.  I used real fresh ingredients in a recipe that I got off….. (cough) Pinterest (cough).

Now, I know that this isn’t really all that uncommon, for people to see pics of amazing food and decide to replicate, but I very rarely do this.  My husband is the cook in our house, and for the better part of 10 years I have stuck to very basic dishes.

I was hungry for seafood, so I thought I would try a garlic shrimp pasta.  I honestly thought about this for my original recipe.

1 bag of shrimp, pre-cooked so I don’t have to take out the poop

2 sprinkles of minced garlic (from the Target spice area)

1 sprinkle of garlic salt (again from Target)

a pinch of whatever “italian seasoning” is

1 large slab of melted butter

2 big handfuls of spaghetti

But then I got to thinking… It can’t be this simple.  If it was, chefs at fancy restaurants would not go through all of the trouble to add fun shit in, like wine…

So I decided for once in my life, I was going to do this the “right way”  I scoured Pinterest for pictures of the best looking garlic shrimp pasta I could find, and I came up with this one…Garlic Butter Shrimp Pasta.

I picked a recipe that called for …. dry white wine and fresh lemon and parsley and grated parmesan. After I saw that these were some of the ingredients, I’m not going to lie, I immediately went back to the Pinterest boards looking for something closer to my original recipe.    For some reason, cooking with real ingredients scares me.  I don’t mean that I only want to eat packaged crap foods, I just get a little nervous, especially when I’m trying something new.  And fresh ingredients tend to be more expensive 🙂  I walked around the grocery store for at least an hour and half, looking for all of the stuff I needed.

I had actually taken photos of the cooking process, but I wasn’t smart enough to save them from my Snapchat story, so here is what you get…

lemon garlic shrimp

This is the wine, the fresh parsley and the lemon juice simmering with butter.  I know it looks like a pan of dirty water, but I promise you, in the other photos I had, it turned out great.  in fact, I had a photo with the lemon and a cutting board with freshly chopped parsley, and even the cooking wine bottle in the back ground.  Just picture it.

When all was said and done, my kids ate it, my husband didn’t dump a bottle of ranch dressing all over it, and they all said they would eat it again.  I was pretty proud of myself for actually using real, fresh ingredients, that I might actually try it again.

My only change would be to get the raw shrimp, as it originally calls for in the recipe.  I guess I’ll just have to get use to scooping out poop. 🙂

familyOkay…  I’m going to just say it.  I do not have it figured out.  At all.

When I was a kid, I thought that my mom had it all figured out.  I always went to her first, because, lets face it, none of us really think of our mom as a person…. Mom is our superhero, nurse, receptionist, chef, and the list goes on…

But as I got older, and started depending less and less on my mom, I realized that maybe she was winging it from time to time.  And I think that because I am WINGING it MOST OF THE TIME.

My kids are 15 and 2.

Cameron, is my stepdaughter.  She and I have been together since she was 3, and I love her so much it kills me.  In fact, sometimes I am so hard on her because I want her to do so much with her life.  I want her to be the best person she can be, and I want her to have things I never even came close to having.  She’s smart, and beautiful and sometimes stubborn as hell, but I am in awe of her.  She is so much stronger than I ever was.  She is not afraid to try new things.  I feel like that is one of the things as a parent, we strive for.  To have our kids be fearless.

Many people also think that I would love her differently than I love the child I gave birth to.

I do not.  At all.  I love them both exactly the same.

Maddox is 2, soon to be 3.  He is the smartest 2 year old I have ever met.  I look at him and see complete and utter joy.  He makes me want to get out of bed every day, because I can’t wait to show him all of the things that make this world an amazing place to live. He is truly obsessed with dinosaurs, particularly the pterodactyl. 🙂

My husband is probably the hardest worker on the planet.  I feel like we don’t get nearly enough time together, between our schedules and the kids activities, but he is my best friend, and when the time comes that one of us will have to live with out the other, I’m selfish, and I hope its him, not me.

I look at people every day and think, “How  do they do this?”  How do people do date nights and fun weekends out of town?  How do they get up every morning and actually get every person in the house out on time, looking like they showered?  How do they cook dinner EVERY NIGHT?

This is what I mean about not having it figured out.  We spend a lot of time at home.  It feels like we barely have enough money to buy groceries, let alone spend the weekend out of town… I try to shower, at least every other day and I won’t even try to say that I cook dinner every night, because if given the choice, I’m ordering something that will deliver.  I told you I don’t have a figured out.

I do though, LOVE my family to the ends of the earth.  I will do absolutely anything to make them good, kind, happy people.  I want their lives to be about memories, and experiences.  I hope that some day they will feel the same way about their own families as I feel about them.

For now though, I’m going to take you along for the ride.

My Iowa Mom Life